While many of these ideas are worded differently, they all seem traceable to a set core of principles, and these are the things we can put some faith in.
The most important principles, that have been nuanced throughout the ages, can all be organized under the most basic of categories. The reason that these ideas have been worded in so many different ways is that the core ideas can be pretty hard to accept, at first. But when we question why we do certain things that may seem unexplainable, if we drill down deep enough in search of a reason, we will usually end up at on of the following principles:
- Ultimately, humans will find a way to get what they want in life (otherwise we will get what we think we want, or what we are willing to tolerate).
- Humans primarily seek happiness in life.
- Humans will seek control - if not over themselves than the ones around them.
- Humans seek the path of least resistance.
- Humans are driven by fear (well, two fears)
- Fear of dying
- Fear of being alone (this much more than the former).
Even if we find ourselves in an unfortunate situation that was not of our making, most likely, we can step back though the series of events that got us to where we are, and find a situation, that if handled differently, would have produced an entirely different outcome.
The cool thing is that people can respect a person who admits their faults and owns up to there mistakes, and if you are around people that can't, then those are people you don't want to be around anyway.
Well, there really is no conclusion. To say that that's all there is feels kinda ( empty ), for there is so much that I could have included in this introduction that its hard for me to say - "stay tuned". So, I would just like to end this with a realization that I came to a couple years ago on this subject, and it really explains why I am included it in the Adventure Life Project.
I was in a book store a while back and I literally looked up and saw an end cap displaying a new self-help book. I read the title, and my first thought was - "yeah, that's a really good topic to approach." And I liked the authors take on the topic, and for a second or two, I even considered taking a look at it. Then I stopped and thought about it for a few more seconds. I thought - "ya know, that topic has been covered pretty extensively, I wonder why we need another book on the subject."
Then I started thinking a little deeper - "Ya know,,, I really think that all the subjects on self-help have been covered pretty extensively. So, what's left?" Then I started thinking even deeper (uh oh). Wow, if there is always a new supply of books coming out about self-improvement, there must be a lot of people still buying them. If there are still so many people buying these self-improvement books, then they must still be in need of self-improvement.
Well, if they are still in need of self-improvement, does that mean that the books don't work? Could the message be wrong, even b.s. I don't think so. The message, in many cases, is spot on. The disconnect is in the motivation to use this information for our own personal gain.
We love to read about what we need to improve. We even read about how to make those improvements. We just have a hard time seeing what needs to be improved within ourselves. And if we are lucky enough to discover what we need to improve, we struggle to find the approach that we are comfortable with. If we are lucky enough to find the right approach, we find it too difficult to even get started.
The truth is that this is a long process and whatever new path you choose to take, it's not going to appear after reading a book or two. Whatever it is you choose, it will require getting out and doing the work, but it can be a whole lot of fun too.
My hope is that by passing along the things that I have learned on the inside as well as the things I have experienced in the great outdoors, maybe I can encourage others to follow along a similar path. Maybe I can even reduce the learning curve a little bit. And by committing to do this, maybe I can keep myself on this path as well.
So whether you are here to explore the adventures that await us out there, or if you are here to do some internal exploration, I really look forward to having you on board, because I would really enjoy the company. Just keep in mind that this new path is a long one. In fact it's lifelong! So, let's enjoy every minute of it.
Take care and see you out there!
Nine Things You Simply Must Do - by John Cloud